If you've never bottomed (aka received anal penetration), the idea can be intimidating. Even if you have, there are a lot of misconceptions. Here's our guide to all things bottoming. 🍑
A shower with external cleaning is usually enough to be ready for anal play. If you really want to do some internal cleaning, stick with an anal douche rather than an enema. Use warm water rather than any chemicals or cleaners.
Keep in mind that these cleaning techniques can wear down your tissues and may make you more sensitive during sex. It’s best to give yourself at least an hour between this kind of cleaning and play time.
Be sure to have body safe lubes on hand that you know you enjoy. (Remember that oil based lubes will make condoms break - even coconut oil.) Avoid any numbing gels or creams, as these prevent your body from warning you when harm is being done.
To receive anal penetration you need to be relaxed. And that’s often easier said than done.
Practice mindfulness as well as breathing exercises to get in the habit of relaxing your body. These are great techniques to practice on your own, when playing with anal safe toys. (Make sure they have a wide, flared base!)
While the desire to please a partner can be strong, remember that pain is your body’s way of warning you about harm - so you should always stop when penetration hurts.
Looking out for your body makes you responsible - a great trait in a partner! That also means being able to communicate your needs and desires is very important. And it’s okay if you’re not up for all activities all the time.
With anal sex, sometimes shit happens, and it’s not the end of the world. 💩 But there are things you can do to take your mind off of hygiene worries.
Having a diet rich in fiber, fruits, and vegetables (and limiting processed foods) can contribute to a healthy digestive system. And that means there’s rarely fecal matter hanging out in the rectum.
Remember, anal play, like all sex, should be fun and pleasurable! Don’t hesitate to speak up if something isn’t working for you.