Anilingus (or a “rim job”) is the act of performing oral sex on someone’s anus.
When everyone is on board, rim jobs can feel extraordinary, create unique sensations, and improve intimacy between a couple.
Because of the natural bacteria that live inside the butt, rim jobs require certain guidelines that are often not necessary for other activities.
Here’s what you need to know before going downtown:
Just taking a shower and washing with mild soap will do the trick. It’s good to clean all the external surfaces inside your crack PLUS dip a little bit inside your anus to clean the external sphincter.
If one of you has a vagina, be sure not to go directly from rimming the anus to the vagina or mouth. Doing so could introduce unwelcome bacteria into the vaginal tract, potentially causing infections.
Just like in other kinds of oral sex, the build up is key. Take your time working down your partner’s body. Kiss and nibble their butt cheeks, squeeze their thighs, and give them time to warm up and yearn for the sensation.
If you don’t like the natural taste of your partner’s body, flavored lubes can be fantastic. Most flavored lubes have sugar in them, making them incompatible with vaginas. But it’s a-okay to use a sugary lube in the butt.
After anilingus, and before any other sort of oral play, it’s a good idea to use mouthwash and rinse off your face. If you want to kiss your partner, ask first.
The rim job gets its slang name from one of the more popular moves: running your tongue in circles around the rim of the anus. Be slow and deliberate with this move. It can feel strange if you go too fast.
When it comes to doing the deed, there are as many ways to rim as there are to kiss. Some people enjoy the sensation of a flat tongue and some people enjoy penetration.
Rim jobs can feel fantastic, but they can also be a strange or emotionally-charged experience for newbies.
Ask your partner if they are enjoying what you’re doing. If you get a verbal confirmation, keep going. But if you feel hesitation or doubt, stop what you’re doing and have a conversation about it.
Rimming is sexy and pleasurable all on it’s own, and can also be a fun precurser to other forms of anal play.
Enjoy! 🍑👅