The internet has created remarkable new ways for people to connect romantically and sexually. Especially now, as social distancing keeps most people at home rather than out in the world, tech-mediated intimacy in the form of adult chats and VR sex are becoming increasingly popular.
Sex that takes place online can involve video on both ends of the interaction (as with video conferencing sex), only one person on camera (as with cam sites), or text only. Online sex or cyber sex can involve real life partners, paid sex workers, or virtual partners, such as adult chatbots. On webcam sites, for example, models and performers broadcast erotic shows for their patrons. Partners who use conferencing apps like FaceTime to connect, on the other hand, are simply using existing technology to masturbate together online or otherwise explore sex from a distance.
Below, we're breaking down seven different ways technology can seamlessly integrate with your sex life.
Before the golden age of the internet, if a person wanted to have long-distance sex, a phone call was the best way to get it on. Now, we can have adult chat time with our long-distance lovers using free video conferencing apps like Zoom, Skype and FaceTime. All of these options allow you to choose between a video call or audio-only.
Having sex via video conference is intimate, private, and free. The only downside is that you can't really enjoy this method solo — you need to have a willing partner already.
While video conferencing apps are most often used for one-on-one adult chats, certain apps can also be used to host larger gatherings, such as virtual orgies. These parties can offer voyeurs and exhibitionists alike the chance to show off and watch individuals and couples masturbate and have sex. Many of these parties require participants to take part in an orientation, and the parties usually require paid entry.
Similar to video conferencing apps, video messaging apps like Marco Polo and Snapchat allow you to see your partner's face (and other body parts, if you're lucky). Unlike FaceTime or Zoom, for instance, video messaging apps don't require live interaction. Rather, they are a fun and flirty way to leave messages for a partner to watch at their convenience.
As with conferencing apps, though, you will need to have an existing partner who is eager to sext with you.
Adult chat rooms have been around since the dawn of the internet, when most online content was text-based. Adult chat rooms facilitate anonymous chats between individuals as well as groups of people. Often, the goal of spending time in adult chat rooms is finding a partner who might be interested in moving the conversation to a private chat. Some adult chat rooms are completely free, while others are subscription-based. Some offer additional features at higher payment tiers. Depending on the site’s popularity, the chatroom may be overwhelmingly “noisy” or frustratingly quiet. Some adult chat room sites have smaller rooms based on affinity groups like MILFs, kink, or BBW.
Slutbot is an adult chatbot service that strikes a balance between erotica and live chat. Instead of a chatting with a stranger on the internet, however, you are flirting with a “virtual” lover via text message. Sexting with Slutbot is a great way to learn about your kinks and interests, then explore them slowly and privately. Created by professional sex educators and writers in tandem with engineers, Slutbot is a great way to practice dirty talk and get in the mood before you engage in cybersex. Sign up here to start sexting with Slutbot for free.
Cam sites like StripChat.com and Chaturbate.com are video-based adult chats with models. Most cam sites allow free adult chat and viewing, but you will need to tip the models if you want to chat privately or make special requests. Some sites require free registration to interact with the models. Others offer paid subscriptions for access to private rooms, where you can make requests.
VR porn is traditional pornography that's been enhanced to offer a more immersive user experience. VR porn utilizes special VR goggles to create point-of-view (POV) porn that closely mimics the real thing. Some VR setups include a device to stimulate the genitals to make the experience even more immersive.
The rules and etiquette of cybersex vary depending on the platform and space. That said, some rules apply broadly. It’s a good idea to get to know the space or community you're in before making requests. Read or watch other people's interactions for a bit before launching in. If there are rules posted about how adult chatters are expected to behave on that site or thread, take the time to read them.
Be extremely cautious about sharing sensitive personal information in adult chat rooms or with people you don’t know very well. The internet is forever, so don't share pictures if you don’t feel comfortable with strangers having access to them long after you’re done chatting. Similarly, don’t post or share pictures of other people unless they give you explicit permission. To do so would be a violation of their privacy and in many places, it’s against the law.
Be polite when you're on adult chats or cam sites. In most cases, you are interacting with real people. Being pushy or demanding can get you kicked out, or in some cases, banned from the site entirely.
If you’re engaging with a partner on screen, make sure you have a strong internet connection and good lighting. Zoom and apps like it can take up a lot of bandwidth.
You may have to browse and experiment a bit before you find the perfect place to have sex online. Luckily, most adult chats and online outlets for cybersex are free to try. Shop around until you come across the best app, website, or platform for exploring your desires.